Power and control

These two tactics are used in so many ways of our abusers Without you even realizing it! My abuse went on for almost 20 years and actually truly loved the man I never even thiught about cheating on him and thought he was perfect Even left my husband In all reality i was just infatuated with him and never thought i could do any better As soon as he opened his mouth his looks turned to crap and as we aged they faded as well He made me feel like I was the ugliest most stupid person I’ve ever known I couldn’t do anything right for him I still to this day cant figure out why I stayed so long or he would still want to be friends at one point Through thick and thin we battled back and forth but always made sure the other one was ok Until the day I had my daughter and then i onew I couldn’t do it anymore and would never want her to think that type things f treatment/behavior was ok and she could be a nobody and never be truly loved and happy Overall I think he finally realized it himself because of her He loved that little girl but she needed more than that / !