What is Love? Pt.2

Before you say: "I knew it, my husband doesn't love me because he doesn't talk to me!" I would like to ask you for a moment. Because love is just as patient. Sometimes people only fall silent because it is too tiring for them to speak to someone.

Here I would like to invite you to a little exercise: the dialogue.

Make a fixed appointment for a conversation as a couple. Everyone has 3 times 10 minutes here to speak or to remain silent, without any questions, without justifications, without pressure or without interruption. Conversation content can be the day experienced or things that concern you. If possible, choose a topic that is free of partnership issues or possible crises within the relationship, especially at the beginning. Everyone speaks only about themselves and what moves them. If you are a little more self-centered you can browse this site

Each of you can divide your total of 30 minutes as you want, be it in silence. Nothing has to be, everything can be.

You will be amazed at how talkative your husband can suddenly become when he does not "have to" speak or expect to be interrupted, but is free to do what he likes. Of course, this also applies to some women who need time to open up to a conversation.

6. Love is sexy and naughty
The beginning of a new love is often connected with the fact that we are sexually attracted to each other. We want to get to know every inch of the other's body, we are open and try it out.

But many couples find it difficult to talk about their sexuality. The secret wishes are kept secret and fantasies are never communicated. There may be several reasons for this. Some people may not even know what they like sexually. A much larger proportion are afraid of being rejected because of their own sexual preferences. Isn't that a shame? Suppose your partner would like to be blindfolded by you and he doesn't know that you might like that too?

Sexuality can be fulfilling. And what is fun is fun for both.

In addition, sexuality can always remain somewhat unexpected. It is the most intimate gift we can get from our partner. Gifts that you expect are not gifts. So it means staying open when expressing your own sexual fantasies and then being surprised.

Sexuality is not about frequency, but about quality and shared enjoyment, the pleasure of each other and each other.

By the way: Various studies have shown that the frequency of sex decreases within the first year. After that, the frequency remains approximately the same. Sexual interest and sensation of pleasure are therefore not dependent on the age of the person, but on the age of the relationship.

7. Love trusts
Trust is the basis of every relationship. On the other hand, a lack of trust shows us that we have injuries and are not open. But love needs openness. It is almost insignificant whether the injuries that led to this inner withdrawal came from a previous relationship or whether something in the current relationship shook trust.

The effect is similar - once we have withdrawn into the snail shell, we cannot be reached by anyone there. We're cutting the relationship here. A lack of trust creates a permanently unhealthy distance from our fellow human beings. But how can we get involved with love when we basically want to be decent?

This is sometimes even necessary to protect against further injuries. But for a relationship we have to crawl out again. This courage usually strengthens love again, because trust is like an interplay: we trust others, we trust ourselves. If we have self-confidence, we can also trust others.

Ultimately, our trust makes us ready to love and to receive love.