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People will never adhere to common rules because we are all very different from one another. One person may have been abused as a child, while another lived in a hyper-protective environment. We differ in upbringing, education, and beliefs. It’s normal for people not to follow common rules; this is just a condition of life. Therefore, when someone tells you they love you, it doesn't necessarily mean they understand love in the same way you do. What people say is important, as their words may not align with their actions. Someone might say “I love you,” while you feel different emotions. The most common manipulation is the word "love." That's why you need to figure out what love really is. True love is universal; it encompasses feelings of being valued, accepted, trusted, and passionately appreciated, all of which must be genuine. This is a broad answer, but to truly understand love, you need to grasp how it works.
It's also essential to choose the right person, which requires learning to understand others. I don't think you can love someone who could potentially harm you. At the beginning of relationships, people usually try to present their best selves.
Remember, only you know what you want. Therefore, in your relationships, you are the priority. No one can know your dreams but you. However, this doesn't mean you have to make all decisions on your own physically. If you are the priority, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to tell the man this directly. You can inspire him to take actions toward you. Many people mistakenly believe that manipulation is bad, forgetting that any teaching or coaching is a form of manipulation. A coach must inspire an athlete and help them believe they can achieve what they've never done before. Working with a psychologist is also a form of manipulation; restoring a person’s self-confidence and nudging them toward new actions can only be done this way. Additionally, have you ever considered that a simple smile is also a form of manipulation? By smiling, we show others that we are friendly and happy to see them, even if we aren’t always genuinely smiling. And that's not a problem. You can inspire and decide what deserves to be in your life and what doesn’t.
If you struggle to accept that manipulation can be useful, let’s talk about boundaries. People often say that boundaries should not be crossed. But when someone gives you a compliment, your boundaries are indeed crossed, albeit pleasantly. If someone gives you flowers, they do so without asking, which is also a nice gesture. If we look at boundaries and understand that they can be crossed positively, then we certainly don’t mind that. Moreover, if you also cross other people's boundaries in a positive way, they will appreciate it. The question isn't about manipulation or boundaries; it's about what we ultimately want. If someone's life improves and they begin to believe in themselves more, that's a good thing.
Regarding flirting, receiving attention is pleasant. This often happens to us on a chemical level, as our emotions are the result of various neurohormones produced by our bodies. This affects every cell in our bodies. We can remain in this state for an hour, two, or even an entire day. If you are blossoming and come home, wouldn’t it be nice for your man to see a radiant woman? Flirting isn't cheating; it’s when you receive attention and realize that you are attractive, which boosts your self-confidence.
As for flaws, do you know all your strengths? Are you aware of the good things others see in you? Sometimes, people become so preoccupied with “improving” themselves that they put their lives on hold and lose years.
Life is much simpler, but only if you have the right benchmarks for interacting with others and yourself. If you know what needs to be resolved in communication with each person and apply rules that anyone would accept, then all your goals will be achieved. Others will be ready to help you with this.
This is a general response to the test you took. I hope my answer has been helpful to you!